My buddies having an issue, he’s in love with a girl, but the sex is horrible.  I’ve been in this situation before, hardcore love and softcore sex.

I think the first instinct is to talk it out, bring up the situation and talk to her about it. After going through what I did, I wouldn’t recommend it.  One day I brought it up, discussed it rationally that I would like to have more sex, and that the fact that she wasn’t trying to rip my clothes off every min we were together was a little weird to me.  As I thought when you are young in a relationship people usually like to get it on quite often.  That didn’t go on so well.  As much as we want to think that we are okay and able to deal with criticism, we as human beings are not capable are not able to handle that sort of judgment. I learned that when you bring up the topic of sex it usually leads to bad things. Sex is supposed to be fun and enjoying, not a chore, so don’t treat it like one or it will become one. To cope with a situation like this I highly recommend this thought process:

1. Realize people don’t change easily. If the sex is bad now, it’ll probably be bad a couple months from now. Don’t EXPECT the person to change. That is the worst thing you can do.

2. If you want to try and change her, the ideal thing to do in this situation is to “train” her using positive reinforcement. That is the only way it’ll get better. So every time she does the things that she likes reward her and if she does something you don’t like ignore her. That is the only way to “train” someone. That’s how you train dogs and that’s how you train girlfriends.

What do you guys think? If you where put in this situation would you break up with the girl? Or would you stick around for all the bad sex?   I’d love to hear your take on it post in the comments!